It is unfortunate that some pastors pretend to be too busy to enjoy sex-Pastor's Wife Reveal

Toyin-Kehinde and Adewale

  You see him on Sunday morning well               dressed in his three piece suit and looking freshly anointed.

The picture you see is that of a cherub, who has just arrived from the heavens with a message for the people and would be back there soon after.

Once he starts to preach, the congregation is overwhelmed with the awe he exudes. Because this is all they know about him, some followers believe that is all about the pastor.

Ask some Christians and they will bet their life savings that their pastors have never visited the toilet, not to talk of having sex.

Where on earth do they have the time for such things, they seem to assert in illusion.

They base their judgement on the fact that usually, a pastor is seen praying, preaching or counselling; so the average congregant believes he must be a super being, who never answers to any call of nature – especially sex.

The pastor is perhaps the most misunderstood and over-rated being on earth today.

He is rated as a semi-god, incapable of enjoying the pleasures that life presents him. This is so because he rarely talks to his adherents about other areas of his life.

Pblog asked some pastors and pastors’ wives if they have erotic feelings and sexual closeness with their spouses like other people.

They said the illusion that pastors don’t have sex life only lies in the minds of few ignorant congregants.

“Sex is a beautiful gift from God within the marriage context. It is not possible for my husband not to have sex. He feels the same way other men feel because he is human. It is the food of our marriage just as food is to the body. We make it a regular affair because the absence of it can negatively affect our relationship and even his work as a pastor,” said Pastor (Mrs.) Kemi Olofinkua of the New Anointing Deliverance Church, Anifowose, Ikeja, Lagos.

She said that both she and her husband do not take sex for granted because starving one another could cause a scandal, especially if not properly managed.

She said that she seldom turned down her husband’s invitation because strange women would willingly offer themselves if allowed.

Olofinkua said, “People who think pastors don’t have sex must be funny. No matter the level of anointing, a pastor needs his wife at home. The difference between a pastor and other men is that he can cope whenever his work demands that he abstains from sex.

“But it is dangerous to make him burn with desire for sex without satisfying it with his wife. If this happens, he could be pushed out into the waiting arms of many others because pastoral work usually endears pastors to people – men and women. As a pastor’s wife, I don’t take my husband’s sexual need for granted. When he beckons,  no matter how tired I am, I don’t turn him down.”

Similarly, Pastor Mrs. Shade Toyin-Kehinde said it is a fallacy to think or say that pastors don’t have sex with their wives.

She said, “Pastors are not woods. It is the same with pastors as it is for other men. Sex is an integral part of every marriage. It is anti-god to wish it away. A healthy, regular sex is important to pastors because it makes them to maintain focus and avoid falling on the laps of other desperate women, who wish to have them because of the glory on them.”

She said that she makes it a point of duty to ‘serve’ her husband, especially after he has done great spiritual exploits, adding that a pastor who has a poor sexual relationship with his wife would engage in extra-marital affairs.

She said, “If your wife has just served you hot pounded yam and egusi soup before leaving home and someone then offers you beans, you will naturally turn down the offer because you’re satisfy. I don’t joke with my sexual relationship with my husband and I never say no to him.”

Toyin-Kehinde, who is the wife of the Pastor in charge of Agape Generation International Church, Maryland, Lagos, said there should be no week without sex between a pastor and his wife. She said a healthy sex in marriage enhances holiness.

She said, “The anointing attracts goodwill and people. Some women in church get so carried away that they tell the pastor ‘I just like you.’ The pastor’s wife must help her husband to overcome these overtures by being there for him.

“My husband doesn’t flirt but we have devised means to stay close always. Our offices are just side-by-side. When a woman comes to him for counselling and she is not properly dressed, he directs her to me. We preach healthy sex in marriage and we practise it.”

She said it is unfortunate that some pastors pretend to be too busy to enjoy sex in marriage.